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10 ways to help children develop resilience


Parents often ask me, “How can I help my child to become more resilient?” Given that life is full of obstacles and challenges, teaching children to be resilient is important. Emotional resilience is the ability to bounce back after an unexpected setback. Resilience allows us to move forward even when things don’t work out as planned. Feelings like disappointment and frustration are normal and natural in the face of adversity. The ability to be resilient allows one to view a setback as an opportunity, whereas the absence of resilience may result in the same event being seen as a avalanche that one can’t overcome.

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I Had My Kids’ Technology Use Under Control… Then Came the Snow Day


Regardless of how much I try to get ahead in terms of managing my kids’ technology use, school snow days mean I’m behind again. Just this week, I re-instituted for about the fifth time a ‘no tech use during the school week’ policy. My intention when I got the boys their first Xbox was that it would be for weekend use only. Slowly, very slowly, we’ve migrated into tech use during the school week.

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Parent Rap: 5 ways to build a child’s grit

Crunch time is here for students. Expectations peak between now and the end of the year. February and beyond are months filled with more homework, more studying, more tests and more stress. How can children and teens deal with all of it? Grit, says University of Pennsylvania psychologist and MacArthur Fellow Angela Duckworth. Grit is defined as a distinct combination of passion, resilience, determination and focus, which allows a person to maintain the discipline and optimism to persevere in their goals even in the face of discomfort, rejection and lacking visible progress for years, or even decades.

Duckworth’s research has demonstrated that smarts and talent alone do not make for the success of spelling bee finalists, West Point cadets, salespeople and teachers, but smarts combined with grit does. Her research demonstrates that being smart and coming from a loving and stable home are not enough to earn success in the absence of hard work and determination. Successful students during these upcoming pressure-filled months will be the ones with the grit.

Here are five ways that parents can promote grit in their own children:

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8 ways to help end bullying this month



Bullying is an age-old problem; however, after the shootings at Columbine High School, experts and educators began to recognize that bullying can have deadly consequences if not addressed. Since 2006, the month of October has been designated as National Bullying Prevention Month. October 19th is national anti-bullying awareness day and by wearing orange you can show your support.

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10 tips for effective co-parenting



How well do you co-parent and what would your partner say? Co-parenting is one of the biggest concerns married parents have and yet often they don’t realize the impact their differences have on their children. Often times when parents want help with a struggling child, they end up discussing parental communication and management of disagreements.

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8 tips for parents outsourcing responsibilities

Hiring out services that are traditionally assumed by parents is the latest trend happening in today’s modern families. Whether it’s the Uber car that drives your child to their soccer practice for urbanites or the nanny who attends the weekly physical therapy appointment for suburbanites, more and more outsiders are taking the place of parents and being hired to fill in the gaps where parents can’t.

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9 ways to deal with the end-of-summer blues

For many of us, winter blues pale in contrast of the end-of-summer doldrums. Many parents, myself included, don’t want to even think about how life will change dramatically in just 14 days.

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