10 Ways parents support children in a crisis

  1. mother-with-her-daughterLimit  access and exposure to TV, social media and  “suggestible” discussions.
  2. Listen, be patient, tolerate children’s irrational thoughts and fears, without indulging them “I know it’s scary and it feels like it’s going to be us next…. And it’s not.
  3. Watch for changes in their behavior-moodiness, nightmares, sleep and eating disturbances.
  4. Watch for anxiety in reaction to more immediate life issues (upcoming tests, exams, performances).
  5. Role Model Calm, Calm, Calm and if parents are not feeling calm, process with adults, away from your children, to protect them from your own irrational fears.
  6. Help Children remain in  routine and /or return to it as soon as possible.
  7. Encourage them to help others allowing them to feel empowered that they can “do” something.
  8. Know and believe that everyone, even children and teens, are resilient and do over come stress to return to baseline after a crisis.
  9. It is normal for kids to feel upset, sad, confused or afraid after something bad happens; let your child know its okay to have these feelings and that they pass.
  10. If kids can’t get back to baseline or show difficulty adjusting to their routine and normal life seek professional help.

Watch Dr. Kates Video on Children Support in a Crisis: